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Chris Stokes and Raz B

 DANGER, SEXUAL ORIENTATION CONFUSION, PAIN, SECRETS, & SUFFERING
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Bishop Eddie Long



Marques Houston

Recently all over the media there has been coverage of molestation accusations towards famous individuals such Bishop Eddie Long and Music Manager Chris Stokes. Many famous men African-American men in paticular have come forth and admitted they were victims of pedophilia activity these men include the following Tyler Perry, CNN New Anchor Don Lemon, and former B2K member Demario Thorton also known as Raz B. Honestly I think Bishop Eddie Long is guilty and Chris Stokes did do something to Demario Thorton and now that he claims Marques Houston was involved I would not be suprised.  The images you see below of Queen Latifah and Mary J. Blige they were molested by family member or a close friend of the family.


Queen Latifah



Mary J Blige

                                     

Don Lemon




Many African-Americans don't want to believe that pedophilia is both very common and unfortunate in our community. I also feel as though this is part of the reason why homosexuality has become so prevelant in men these days and I will admit it scares me. I plan on having children one day and I would never want someone to sexual abuse them whether its my son or my daughter. When it comes to finding a boyfriend or husband I get frustrated knowing that I'm thinking in the back of my mind could  he secretly be gay or was he molested as a child all sorts things come about. I know that I am not the only woman that thinks about this.

What is Pedophilia?
Pedophilia is a paraphilia that involves an abnormal interest in children.
Pedophilia is also a psychosexual disorder in which the fantasy or actual act of engaging in sexual activity with prepubertal children is the preferred or exclusive means of achieving sexual excitement and gratification. It may be directed toward children of the same sex or children of the other sex. Some pedophiles are attracted to both boys and girls. Some are attracted only to children, while others are attracted to adults as well as to children.



Read more: Pedophilia - children, causes, DSM, functioning, therapy, adults, person, people, used, personality, skills, health, traits, mood, Definition, Description, Causes and symptoms http://www.minddisorders.com/Ob-Ps/Pedophilia.html#ixzz14ikKyhaW
Facts and Description
The focus of pedophilia is sexual activity with a child. Many courts interpret this reference to age to mean children under the age of 18. Most mental health professionals, however, confine the definition of pedophilia to sexual activity with prepubescent children, who are generally age 13 or younger. The term ephebophilia , derived from the Greek word for "youth," is sometimes used to describe sexual interest in young people in the first stages of puberty.



The sexual behaviors involved in pedophilia cover a range of activities and may or may not involve the use of force. Some pedophiles limit their behaviors to exposing themselves or masturbating in front of the child, or fondling or undressing the child, but without genital contact. Others, however, compel the child to participate in oral sex or full genital intercourse.




The most common overt aspect of pedophilia is an intense interest in children. There is no typical pedophile. Pedophiles may be young or old, male or female, although the great majority are males. Unfortunately, some pedophiles are professionals who are entrusted with educating or maintaining the health and well-being of young persons, while others are entrusted with children to whom they are related by blood or marriage.

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A pedophile is often very attractive to the children who are potential victims. Potential pedophiles may volunteer their services to athletic teams, Scout troops, or religious or civic organizations that serve youth. In some cases, pedophiles who are attracted to children within their extended family may offer to baby-sit for their relatives. They often have good interpersonal skills with children and can easily gain the children's trust.


 



Some pedophiles offer rationalizations or excuses that enable them to avoid assuming responsibility for their actions. They may blame the children for being too attractive or sexually provocative. They may also maintain that they are "teaching" the child about "the facts of life" or "love"; this rationalization is frequently offered by pedophiles who have molested children related to them. All these rationalizations may be found in pornography with pedophilic themes.


My Thoughts: This shit is very disturbing and makes me want to vomit I hate people that do this and try to justify this type of behavior. I have no love or respect for any man or woman that could do these things to another human being especially a child. Some of my peers that are homosexual men have told me that after being molested it made them question their sexuality and that is what turned them on to men.




For example members of 1980's singing group Debarge watched their father beat on their mother but he also molested his own children. He later apologized but the damage was already they have struggled with drug addiction since their youth trying to cope and forget.

Debarge

This is a problem that is not going to be solved any time soon unfortunately but we can do this is make people more aware and try to prevent more children from being harmed. People say that growing is hard to but no child should have to endure this. Parents make sure you talk to your kids for their own safety remember that communication is key. Young women are more likely to tell someone that they have been abused young men especially young black men are more likely to keep it a secret keep in mind  Don Lemon did not tell his mother that he was sexually abused until he was 30 years old.