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" Mother Goose and the Sly Fox,  "retold" by Chris Conover, a single mother (Mother Goose) of seven tiny goslings is pitted against ( and naturally outwits) the sly Fox. Fox, a neglectful and presumably unemployed single father, lives with his filthy hungry pups in a grimy hotel littered with the bones of their previous meals Mother Goose, a successful entrepreneur with a thriving lace business, still finds time to serve her goslings homemade soup in pretty porcelain cups." Armin A. Brott examined this as he read this story to his two year old daughter the point he is trying to make in Not All Men Are Sly Foxes is that men in these children books if they're shown at all still come down late after work and participate in the child rearing by bouncing baby around for five minutes before putting the child to bed.

Here is the thing women and men are taught certain things at an early age. Girls are taught by their mothers to be a homemaker while boys are taught to be tough and bring home the bacon. The issue some women sometimes believe their sole purpose it look a certain way and find a man to take care of them. Men are taught go out and work most of the time. Now things have changed because each generation makes a difference or sometimes history may repeat itself.



For example my grandfather has worked all of his life and believes women should depend on men. He has an issue with an independent woman he thinks the woman should remain at home with the children cook and clean. He and my grandmother made an agreement that my grandmother would be the home maker earlier in their marriage she worked but when the children were born that changed. These are my father's parents.  My parents made an agreement that my mother would work part-time when my brother and I were toddlers when we were old enough to go to school she went back to the workforce and later back to school.

There needs to be a balance one parent should not put in all the effort. I'm sure most single parents did not plan on being single parents although obstacles come about in some shape or form large or small people learn to roll with the punches. Only a man is able to teach a boy how to become a man. Only a woman can teach a girl how to be a woman. Both parents should have influence in the lives of their children. We need to stop shedding negative light on our fathers and putting all the pressure on mothers as well as fathers.
I do think some standard and expectations can be set as long as they are reasonable. If a man wants a woman that will cook and clean I think that is fair as long as he rotates with her. If  a woman wants to be a provider for his household that is natural as long as she brings something to the table such as an education and her own work experience.